Always Anna

While out earlier this week, one of my guy friends said, “Thanks for letting [the BF] come out with us three nights last week!”  The comment threw me off, but I just laughed and said, “No, thank you for getting him out my hair!”  But it’s been bugging me ever since. 

It bothers me that people assume that I’m somehow responsible for the BF’s actions.  I know there are a lot of people out there that want to have some level of control over their significant other’s choices (and it’s not just girls - I’ve got guy friends that are like that too).  But I don’t let the BF do anything.  And he certainly doesn’t let me do anything. 

Maybe it’s because my own independence is so important to me, but I would never want to be in a relationship that required asking permission to do something.  We’re adults, right?  We can make our own decisions.  This doesn’t mean that I don’t care about what the BF does - I expect him to let me know what his plans are so that I don’t make conflicting plans.  But I trust that he takes me into consideration when he’s making plans with his friends, just as I do for him. 

But does it sound rude if, the next time someone thanks me for letting the BF have a life, I reply, “I’m not his freaking mother!  I don’t tell him what to do!”